I
find many clients wanting something to change in their lives
rather than changing themselves. If only my job, my income,
my spouse, my life would change and let me be the same. If
only he’s be faithful or if only he’d quit drinking.
AND THEN I’D BE HAPPY!
In successful living, as co-creators of our reality we must
embody the changes we want to express in the world. Yes, that
means WE must change and that change doesn't mean merely adding
a bit of new knowledge, or subtracting a bad habit. Transformation
might be the more appropriate word for change since not "one
thing in our lives", but our whole being changes. For example,
if another worker is added in your department, the work load
changes, the atmosphere changes, and the dynamics of the department
change. Nothing happens in a vacuum.
The caterpillar metamorphasizing to a butterfly is a wonderful
metaphor for this transformation. The caterpillar doesn't
go into the cocoon and pin on wings a few weeks later. When
it enters the cocoon it's whole body become a mass of unrecognizable
protoplasm and it gradually begins to form into a new being
which has wings.
The physicist Prigogene's theory of dissipative systems might
be a better metaphor for some of you. Before a system, including
a human, can move to a higher order of being, a transformation
occurs in which the old system dissolves and rearranges itself
into a new, higher order.
So change is not putting on a sweater or reading a new book
but actually embodying the new you.
Do you just want to pin on wings or are you ready for the
real change to the new you?
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